Surviving College: Game Of Thrones Edition

GameOfThronesCollege is one of those crazy times that not everyone chooses to go through. If you’ve decided to make the next step in furthering your education, be prepared. College is nothing like high school. Well, maybe the people don’t always change but with thousands of students on campus and numerous classroom buildings, certain people are always easy to avoid. Still, college is an entirely different world, and the best advice that anyone can prepare you with are the words of warning and vigilance from House Stark, one of the greatest, most noble houses of Westeros. Winter is Coming.

  1. Don’t worry about trying to fit in. Just be yourself and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks.


High school might have been the time for trying to fit in with this group or that clique, but you’re in college now. You don’t need to be someone you’re not in order to fit in. College is a time to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life and how you want to live it. Don’t worry about other people and what they think. Their opinions don’t matter. If someone doesn’t like you, move on. There are plenty of other people for you to meet.

  1. Don’t become an alcoholic every weekend.

Tyrion Drinking

It’s easy to get caught up in the partying and drinking on weekends, especially if you live on campus. Everyone always seems to be going out and having a good time, and you don’t want to be left out. The best advice anyone can give you: know your limits and get your work done. Then you can have your fun.

  1. You need to be independent now.


Don’t rely on anyone else to save you. You’re in college now, and you need to learn how to be independent. Mom and Dad won’t be around forever to help you get out of sticky situations; no one can save you from the mistakes you make. And ladies, you don’t need a “knight in shining armor” to rescue you from a tower. You can rescue yourself.

  1. It’s okay to cry.


College is tough, like really, really tough. You’re going to have to work for your grades no matter what major you choose to pursue, and it’s okay if you don’t get the perfect grades you once got in high school. And after pulling an all-nighter for a test you fail, it’s okay if you want to curl up in a ball and hibernate under all your blankets for a bit.

  1. But you can’t let every failure be a discouragement.


Allow yourself those few moments of self-pity but get back up and do what needs to be done no matter how much time or work it might take.

  1. You won’t always agree with your teacher’s opinion.


But seriously, don’t push it. Don’t argue. Just go with it. Your grade will be so much better for it.

  1. You might want to re-think going out in the middle of the week.


The next morning rolls around and you’re regretting that last martini and vaguely remembering that make out session with the hot guy whose name you forgot to catch. Roll up to class rocking a messy hair bun and sweats. Test? Oh shoot. That was today? Yeah, you’re feeling your stomach drop into your butt right about now. Worst feeling in the world. Don’t let that happen to you.

  1. You’re still going to have to deal with idiots.


Sometimes people don’t get any smarter once they graduate high school, or even college for that matter. Just ignore them. Don’t argue and get on their level. It’s not worth your time or energy.

  1. It’s okay to fall in love, just don’t let it take over your life.


You may or may not fall in love during your college years, but enjoy it when you have it. Just don’t let it be all-consuming and have it take over your life to the point of stupid decisions and pushing important people away. Take it from Jamie’s mistakes– your love is not worth pushing a little boy out of a window.

  1. Get your sleep whenever and wherever you can– just not in class.


You might be pulling a handful of all-nighters more than once a week, especially during finals. So make sure you at least get a couple hours of sleep. You don’t want to be finding your eyes closing in the middle of that test nor on one of the couches in the student union building. #Awkward

  1. Revel in your successes.


When you ace that test you’ve been studying for all week, you better be proud of yourself. Go out and buy yourself an ice cream or give yourself an all-day binge-watching Netflix day. Celebrate. The whole reason you’re in college is to make grades and have a good time.

  1. Don’t forget about your family.


If you’re a long way from home or even right down the street, don’t forget to stay close with your family no matter how busy you might be. They’ll always be there for you no matter what you’re going through.

College is a crazy and wild time. You’re going to meet so many new people that you won’t know what to do with yourself. It feels like just yesterday that I was spending my summer anxiously waiting for my first year of college to start. Now I’m beginning my junior year. My time in college has gone by so fast that I can hardly keep up. Make sure you enjoy your time, don’t stress out too much over grades, and know your priorites. These are the last days of our lives before going out into the real world. Are you ready?



Lions Don’t Loose Sleep Over the Opinions of Sheep

I don’t quite know who I am yet with so many people trying to define me. People are always trying to whisper and talk about who I am when I’m not around to hear what they have to say. It is cowardly to talk behind a person’s back, and no matter how many times the gossip-tellers make people swear not to tell anyone, it will always get back to the one being talked about.

And something most people haven’t quite grasped yet is that there is a difference between talking about someone and worrying about someone. It’s understandable if someone knows a secret that could possibly harm someone else physically or emotionally and needs to confide in someone that can be trusted to help in the situation. We’re human and no matter how old we are we will never be able to take the weight of the world alone on our shoulders.

What seems to happen, though, is that when we confide in someone that we believe can help and that we believe we can trust they don’t always live up to our expectations. People talk no matter where you go. It’s a conversation starter for some people. “Did you hear about what so-and-so told me about so-and-so?” Most people don’t value and respect the relationship of a confider and a confide-e anymore. So it’s difficult to figure out who can be trusted with the secrets that are eating away at you on the inside. How do you know if the person you’re confiding in is going to keep this between the two of you? You don’t. And it takes a while to learn this.

I’m a second year college student, and I’m still learning that I can’t always trust the people that I surround myself with. A simple solution could be just not to hang around these people, but that’s impossible when you share an organization with them or when you live in the same building or when you have the same classes. It’s difficult trying to decide who is trustworthy and who are the people that you can have fun with but not connect with on an emotionally deeper level.

Over the summer, I had a close friend. She would call me almost every night and talk to me. She would tell me all of the gossip going on back up at school while I was at home and she’d tell me all about her problems and worries. As the weeks passed, I began noticing a trend. She wouldn’t ask about me; if I tried bringing up something relating to myself, she would almost instantly shut the conversation down to talk about something in her life. She would spend hours complaining about people who had once been close friends, revealing to me all of their secrets that they had confided to her. When I met a boy whom I began to like, her first words “He’s ugly.” When she met a close friend of mine for the first time all she had to say about her was “She smells weird.” Now having a close relationship with someone who knocks down anything or anyone you like is very difficult to maintain. So at the beginning of the new semester, I chose to distance myself. I couldn’t be around someone who only ever injected negativity into my life. I would still be her friend, but I didn’t want to hang around her constantly. She grew angry because of this, and instead confronting me about why I wasn’t hanging out with her every day anymore, she went to other people. She began spreading lies, trying to make herself look like a victim. I found out that this wasn’t the first time she had done this. She continued to tell people false things about me. Her ultimate goal was to make people hate me. So she spread lies.

This was not a true friend, nor was she ever. Not everyone will like me. I know that. But what bothers me is that girls think spreading lies about others will make themselves feel better, like she did. She could have just talked to me, and I could have talked to her. I know that I tried explaining to her how I felt, but she would never truly listen to what I had to say. And when she believed things had turned bad she became vicious just like she had done to the others before.

I pity her. I really do. Because she is lacking that much self-esteem that she has to try to trash other people’s reputations in order to feel better about her own. She was trying to get to me, make me upset, and I admit that I was at first. I cried when I found out she was spreading lies and making others think of me in that negative way. Then I realized it doesn’t matter. I learned a lesson. I trusted the wrong person, and now I have to be strong and show people that I’m not the girl she’s attempting to make me out to be. I have to just hold on and be confident in myself. Because, though I’m still trying to figure out who I am, I do know my values and loyalties and those aren’t ever going to change.

I know that I am the kind of person who will always tell the truth when it’s a situation that matters. I’m not going to sit here and preach that I’m some saint who has never lied before. Of course, I’ve told probably over one hundred lies in my lifetime. Lies to protect me when I’m scared; lies to get out of situations I really don’t want to be in. But I know how to tell the truth to someone’s face. I know when the truth is important, and I would never tell a lie in order to hurt someone.

I know that I am the kind of person who respects people and the things they do. I may not agree with everyone’s choices, but I’m understanding of them. I’ve made choices in my life that I’m not happy about, and I had to live with them and deal with them on my own. Everyone has their own burdens, and we’re all going to slip up at times. If it’s a slip up that is truly worrisome, I would want someone to worry enough about me to approach me about it or confide in someone that would talk to me.

I know that I am the kind of person who will not gossip just because I’m bored with my own life. Everyone has his or her own business. I know I have my own business going on. Try to imagine that every time you air someone else’s dirty laundry that you’re also airing your own at the same time. And know if you absolutely have to tell someone, confide in a family member. It’s what I do. They don’t even know these people that I vent about, but they listen, give advice, and it makes me feel better. It keeps me from spreading things that are hurtful to others.

I know that I am the kind of person who would support anyone that needed help. I’m not going to just abandon someone in a time of need. I may not always have the best advice, it may even be cliché at times, but I’ll be there. I’ll volunteer my time when no one else wants to, and I won’t leave anyone or anything until I’m sure that there is nothing left to be done.

I know that I am the kind of person who forgives. It may be challenging but it’s not always impossible. The only stipulation is that I will never forget what happened.

People will always try to tell me who I am. They will always try to tell others the kind of person I am, but the thing everyone needs to realize is that we should never listen to second-hand information because our sources aren’t always that reliable. People unconsciously twist information in their heads: they forget important details and gloss over the positive because we are a society that focuses on negativity.

If there’s anything to take away from all of this, it’s this: Don’t let other people define you or your opinion on anyone else. Be wary of who you’re trusting and the information you’re getting. And if you find out anyone is talking negatively about you, either confront them about it or recognize that they’re doing it out of spite or jealously or boredom. They aren’t worth your time, and don’t ever let them affect the things you do.

“Lions don’t loose sleep over the opinions of sheep.”